May 19, 2013

Is Texting Killing Our Communication Skills?

The text message turned 20 years old this week (hard to believe, I know). It has evolved from being something very few had and used on their mobile devices to now being a staple in millions of daily lives. Unfortunately, it’s evolved and grown at a cost – it’s caused the use of language to devolve terribly, as this article link I posted to our Facebook page would suggest.

While texting someone is quite often convenient and effective, it really is degrading many people’s communications skills. Trying to fit a complete thought into 160 characters (140 for Twitter) is challenging. That’s a big reason I like iMessage (and BlackBerry Messenger before it) so much, as there are no per-message limits. It allows me to complete a thought correctly.

For others, though, text messaging is their primary mode of communication and shortcut phrases are a way of life. The problem is, it’s hard to read. In some cases, I’ve asked people to call me, rather than look for my “decoder ring” to decipher their messages.

I try to use proper grammar/punctuation in my text messages, at least when auto correct doesn’t try to “help” me. If I can’t make it work, it’s time for e-mail or a phone call. Following that plan ensures that I’m presenting myself and my thoughts in the best way possible.

So, do you pay attention to grammar/spelling, or are you a “decoder-ring” type of texter? Let us know here – looking forward to the conversation.

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3 Ways: Reading Messages in iOS

Shortcuts – we all love them. Particularly when it comes to dealing with personal technology.

Funny thing about iOS (the operating system for the iPhone and iPad) – it’s loaded with shortcuts, and they’re usually in the form of different gestures or “swipes” on the screen.

We all check messages, whether it’s email or text messages (they all blend together anymore). So here are 3 ways to get to a new message (with a bonus item – or two – thrown in for the holiday week):

Way #1: From the Inbox

Read Message From the InboxThis is the one most of us almost always use – it’s second nature to view mail from our inboxes.

New/unread messages are flagged with the blue ball indicator.  With a single tap, we’re reading the entire message.

(Extra bonus tip here – want to see more of the message in your inbox view? Go to Settings > Mail, Contacts, Calendars > and change the number of lines for Preview.)

Way #2: From the Notification Center Banner Banner

This is an iOS 5 feature – so if you haven’t upgraded yet, shame on you, go do it now.

Let’s say you’re using your phone – either already reading messages, or choosing a new playlist in iTunes. A new message arrives – if you’ve enabled Alerts for new messages in your Notifications settings (found under General), you’ll see the notification banner at the top of the screen – and if you tap it, you’ll go directly to the new message.

Way #3: From the Lock Screen

Read Messages from the Lock ScreenMost of us don’t just sit there waiting for messages (I said most – the rest of you know who you are). We may, however, like to be notified when messages arrive.

Conveniently, the same bunch of Alerts settings in Notifications can also be used to display new mail in the Lock Screen, as show here (because we’re all locking our screens, right? Of course we are. Silly me.).

There are two options at work here -  Notification Center is set to ON, and View in Lock Screen is also set to ON.

So when a new message arrives, my screen will light up and display the alert. Notice the slide bar at the bottom of the screen; normally it would read “slide to unlock”, but in this case it reads “slide to read”. Doing so will challenge you for your password/PIN, and will then take you directly to the message.

This is useful if you actually get to the alert when it arrives; most of us don’t because we actually put our phones down every now and then. If more than one message has arrived since the last time the device was unlocked, there will be multiple messages displayed.

So here’s Bonus #1 for message management – let’s say I want to view the first message in my list (shown at left):

Read from Lock ScreenRead from Lock Screen- Tap and hold the envelope icon on the left.

- Drag the icon from left to right (shown at right).

- Enter your password/PIN, and you’ll jump directly to it.

Nifty, huh?

So now that you’ve changed your settings to use the Notification Center (an iOS 5 feature – upgrade if you have not done so already), why not use it when the phone isn’t locked?

Read from Notification CenterWith that said, here’s extra Bonus #2 for this 3 Ways posting – reading mail from the Notification Center.

The Notification Center is much more than just messaging alerts – it’s a summary of all unread items, and can also be configured to display Calendar entries, Reminders and a slew of other things (and probably worthy of a post of its own). In short, a very handy tool.

It’s accessed at any time from any app, using a single finger swipe from the very top of the screen. At right is a sample – showing my current unread items and a few calendar entries. Choose any item from the screen with a single tap, and you’ll jump directly to the selected item.

To close it, swipe from the bottom up.

This is one of my favorite features of the iPhone and iPad; it’s not just “day at a glance”, it’s more like “NOW at a glance”.

I used email messages to demonstrate all of these features; the biggest bonus is that these tricks apply to messaging in general in iOS – so feel free to substitute the term Messages for Mail in any of the demos above. It all works the same.

Now go forth and shortcut.

 

Parents Guide to Texting

If you are not currently texting with your children, you should start immediately.  Studies have shown that parent to child communication increases 78% once the parent starts texting.  (*Not a real statistic.)  Texting is quick, easy, and all the cool kids are doing it.

First, realize that texting does not conform to normal grammar and spelling rules.  This does not mean your child’s education was wasted and this is not the time to rant about the state of America’s youth.  A text message can contain up to 160 characters, so you must use your characters wisely.  Abbreviations and misspellings are okay in text messages, but are not acceptable for school assignments, resumes, business correspondence, or anything else that will get your child a job and out of your house.

I know you worked on that detailed message and its disappointing that the only response you got back was Ok.  Lower your expectations of the quality of texts you will receive and remember that this is better than no communication at all.  Text messaging has changed the way we communicate and we now use short, direct statements versus longer, more flowery prose.

Get a better phone, preferably one with a full keyboard, it will make texting much easier.  There are too many options out there for me to review here, so your best course of action is to visit your local cell phone provider store and try them out.  Also, ask your kids, family, and friends what they have and what they like.  You will also want to bump up your texting plan, if you haven’t already.  Every situation is different, so review all the plans and be realistic about how often you are going to text to avoid overage charges.

Proofread your texts!!  There are entire websites dedicated to text messaging gone wrong because people didn’t proofread their text messages before sending them.  If you don’t want to end up on Damn You Autocorrect or Parents Shouldn’t Text (caution, language and adult situations) take a second to read your message and correct any mistakes before you hit Send.  Trust me, it will make the dinner table less awkward that night.

If your kids are still living with you and depending on their age, monitor their texting.  There are apps that can allow you to send and receive texts from an iPod Touch.  Texting is a primary means of communication for kids today and with the increased communication can come bullying, harassment, and dating violence.  Keep tabs on your kids and teach them that written words hurt just as much as verbal ones.

Still not sure where to start?  Ask your child to help you get started and teach you the basics.  Kids are very tech savvy these days and its not often they get to teach their parent a new skill.

Do you text with your parents?  My mom has been texting for years now but my dad’s still holding out.  How did you convince your parents to text?  Let us know in the comments!